Ask yourself . . .
Do 'they' see me as a problem or do 'they' see me as a person?
You may be asking why does it even matter how others view you? Let me tell you that IT MATTERS . . . because YOU MATTER.
As much as we want to ignore or act as if others' perceptions don't affect us . . . sometimes they do. And the first step in practicing MINDFULNESS is to acknowledge how we are feeling right?
I'm not a therapist but I AM a teacher, who always wants her students to embrace who they are. So I'm sharing with you that if you don't feel like you can always be your authentic self, then you may not be in a safe space, to be a PERSON . . . a human being, who's flawed, but who continues growing every day.
I would say that you can become a "problem," when you aren't aware of yourself, when you aren't mindful and aren't willing to hold yourself accountable.
Yes, some situations hurt more than others and trigger us to respond in ways that are unlike our true selves . . . but at the end of the day, do you forgive and forget? or just forgive? or just move on? In my eyes, the latter is the most detrimental because it shows a lack of acknowledgment; there are 2 sides to every story, right?
And just to be fair . . . let's just answer the initial question: Are you a problem or are you a person? Here's my answer:
You are a PERSON, a human being who deserves to be loved, accepted, respected, and empathized with. We all have a back story, but are you willing to share yours?
~ deeply out ❤