I do mental health check ins on Sunday evenings on Clubhouse, but in reality I feel like those check ins are really for me lol And I actually need to add a check in on Mondays because Mondays are A LOT! Whether you have a massive to-do list or you are hella stressed about the week to come - it calls for a mental health check in!
Last night & earlier today I was feeling bittersweet; I realized that I still have a bit of grief inside of me. Healing from grief, plus all the other emotions associated with it, isn't a quick fix. It takes time . . . so I sat with it.
It is so important to PROTECT YOUR HEART, PROTECT YOUR SPACE & BE CAREFUL OF WHO YOU ALLOW ACCESS TO YOU, more importantly who you share your story with. I've made massive mistakes with trusting the wrong people because they gave me attention, they made feel valuable, but I'm learning now.
You are precious. Your story is precious. And your feelings are valid.
People will do what they want, respond how they want, and invalidate your feelings or situations (unconsciously), merely because they don't know what to say, how it feels or they haven't experienced what you have. And it's not to their fault.
I will say this . . . when you get that feeling in your gut, listen to it because it may be the universe trying to get your attention! So BE CAREFUL and practice discernment more because your heart is begging you for PROTECTION!
Are you listening? Are you truly checking in . . . with yourself?
~ deeply out ❤
It's ok to not be ok, right?
Well . . . I'm not ok.
However, I'm aware and have the tools that'll get me to a calm place or calmer place today. For example,
So what am I saying?
I'm saying that it's SO important to check in with where we REALLY are. Yesterday, I felt empowered, but last night I felt broken and today, I chose to start my day off with checking in with myself.
My suggestion to you on #mentalhealthmonday would be to REALLY check in on YOU. Instead of being so available to others, compartmentalizing or distracting yourself (aka ignoring your emotions). CHECK IN, better yet CHECK WITHIN, that's where you'll become more aware of yourself and begin to understand "what do I need right now?"
Personally, what I need is . . . a positive change to happen in my life again, my life for a year has been full of so much loss (heartbreak, betrayal, financial insecurity, etc)
I genuinely ask: What do YOU truly need?
~ deeply out ❤
How important is connection?
Connection = a relationship in which a person, thing, or idea is linked or associated with something else. (according to Google)
I believe that when dealing with any form of depression (As I'm currently in the midst of) . . . connection is something that is deperately needed. Without connecting to friends or being within a social environment, we can find ourselves in a deeper funk, in a place of deep despair, in a space of lack.
Connection helps us smile, when we haven't.
Connection helps us feel valued.
Connection gives us meaning.
And the list goes on . . .
I believe that true connection is a healing component; It changes our mood. It allows us to "make it through one more day."
We yearn for it and when we don't have, don't get it, or can't obtain it . . . our psyche is heavily influenced by it.
While experiencing depression (I'm currently in isolation), I've felt connected to others, through random FaceTime calls, weekly sessions with my therapist, & chatting/debating on Clubhouse. And even though, I decided to take a break from social media . . . fear and anxiety has kept me from being a part of society. However, I'm confident that every week I'll receive an extra boost! . . . because of CONNECTION . . . with someone else.
Where are the spaces you feel safe to connect? And who are the people that keep you uplifted?
~ deeply out ❤