Sometimes we need that extra boost because it helps us know that we're not alone in the world! Ok this may be a bit more for me, rather than for you. lol
Let's start with holidays because today is Easter! - a happy day, a day that most celebrate. However if I may . . . holidays are often a time of sadness for me because I think about my family - I miss them; My family and I are estranged. Nevertheless, my best friend always shares with me that your family can be the people you choose. And the ones who've become my chosen family throughout all these years... have always been my students, my assistants, & my mentees because I feel like they are always the ones who get me together lol (aka they teach me and I learn about myself, through them); They make me feel loved and appreciated (btw I received the most beautiful message from a former student today). And though they have their own families and some have chosen to move on . . . I still have this DIPR (deeper) love for all of them, to this very day! No matter what!
Back to the subject at hand - External vs Internal. And what do I mean pray tell
. . . VALIDATION?!?!?! Let's talk about it! I have chosen both explanation marks and question marks because sometimes it makes us feel too good because it comes from an external place and at other times it makes us question (internally) if this is something that we really need:
Well in my opinion, whether the validation is external or internal - it matters. Without external validation our work, our creation, our stories aren't seen, nor won't be acknowledged, and without the internal validation that empowers us, we wouldn't take that leap of faith or tell ourselves "Yes, I'm dope!." haha
So yes to VALIDATION?!?!?! We need it, you need it, I need it . . . BUT never become beholden to external validation - It should merely put a smile on your face!
~ deeply out ❤
How do you feel about the quotes below?
FEAR is such an uncomfortable thing to process through. That feeling can be so polarizing! So . . . is just jumping back in there, ripping the bandaid off . . . the best option, when dealing with fear?
I wanna go back to the beginning quotes for a second. . .
1. Yes, I've lost a lot of confidence, due to my traumaS.
2. Yes, I am terrified of something that I love being stripped away from me again.
3. Yes, it is terrifying to go back to what I used to do and the person I used to be (in terms of art).
4. Yes, It seems like it gets harder and harder to lift myself back up, after "failing" so many times in my life.
5. And yes, I have become attached to my trauma because of how truly much it has affected me, this go round . . .
So . . . FEAR.
I think pacing yourself and doing things at your own timing and when YOU feel ready is the only way to combat fear . . . along, with working ON yourself, preparing yourself & strategizing your 'upcoming endeavors' . . . your 'comeback tour!'
We walk in the shadows, until we find the light again.
~ deeply out ❤
Let's talk about it!
The 2 words: [Self Love] have been used more than ever, these days . . .
Here's my question:
How do you practice loving yourself IF . . . ?
IF you haven't moved past what others think of you
IF you just haven't moved past your past yet
IF you blame yourself for faults you've made
IF you don't view yourself in the positive ways that others do
IF you haven't found forgiveness for yourself yet
IF your self love is linked to your current self worth
IF love (in general) has always been something that you've struggled with
IF you don't think that true [SELF LOVE] can be obtained
IF you still haven't discovered true [SELF LOVE]
Yes, some of these questions may be easy for you to answer and may not apply to you . . . but some may be a bit more challenged with these questions. Why is that? My perspective is that when you've experienced lots OR recurring trauma, it may be hard to 'see the light, at the end of the tunnel.' So, can we say that [SELF LOVE] is continuous process?
A continuous process . . .
I think that's safe to say; it gives us some peace of mind. We don't become stressed by living up to what we see or hear on social media/society . . . we are in a space to find and discover our own personal version of SELF LOVE.
I LOVE the part of me who finds healing through writing
Try and start here: I LOVE the part of me (fill in the blank)
DIPRlove to you all
~ deeply out ❤
photo by Mike Esperanza