photo by kayden nunziato
Being a dance teacher IS and ISN'T about being seen . . .
You would probably ask why, since the majority of our experience is about being as visible as possible, in order to gain trust amongst our community, as well as gain the interest of students for our classes . . .
Let me tell you. YES, you are right, BUT!. . .
There's always a 'but' btw lol
In this time of 'working on myself and my healing' . . . And as a person with a teaching background that expands through 17 years . . . I decided to remove myself from social media, I decided to remove myself from the Arts community, I decided to cry alone in my apt, I decided to deeply reflect on my past negative experiences, I decided that even though others view me as invaluable and worthless (as a person), I'm understanding that my students never saw me in that way; They saw the beauty in ME, my teaching, my worth, my value.
So, as much as not being seen can hurt your SM algorithm lol or others can really hurt your feelings . . . YES! hurt your feelings so bad that you "think" that you're worthless, no good enough, not popular enough . . .
YOU ARE NOT!
Here's a hashtag you don't hear a lot . . . #yourstudentsmatter and if you love them, believe in them, wanna see them grow and always leave them with the best version of you . . . Being unseen for a while. . . may be the best for YOU & THEM! You can't always give your best, if you aren't at your best, right?
The 'best version' means that your students need both the visible/strong/go-getter you, but they also need the authentic/empathetic/vulnerable side of you too!
So, I'm taking care of my mental health right now, so I can share my story more authentically and so, I can be THE BEST TEACHER I CAN BE! (cliché army commercial lol) BUT! You get my drift!
Just wait until they see you again . . . you'll be unstoppable and you'll actually have something to offer . . . the YOU that matters most!
THE BEAUTY FROM THE ASHES . . .
My advice = YOU DECIDE, Social Media and others' views can't decide for you. Your students will see you again :)
~ deeply out ❤
I ask this question because I've started to learn, after my 17 years as a Dance Educator and 22 years in the game . . . that my value is truly important to me. I may struggle with my self-worth but, not my value.
My value, your value . . . is a price tag and a standard of treatment. Now, making sure you can back up your value is key. For example, the fact that I've taught and resided in various cities, at large institutions, with great, positive student feedback . . . allows me to charge more and or even consider the positions that I'm being offered. Not only that but, I know what I like and what I don't like, will and will not do and an EDUCATOR.
So what is a non-negotiable? My definition is . . . when you won't settle for less or do things, just because of what you're being offered. Here are some of my non-negotiables, as an educator:
Lastly, I'm still learning email tones lol What I'm saying is . . . if you want to be candid, maybe try "Warmly,"... "If I can be candid" . . . " Respectfully, . . . you get my drift. lol That'll lesson the tone with uncomfortable emails.
~ deeply out ❤
photo by Kayden Nunziato