I think we often feel that we have to feel either or: Happy or Sad, Black or White, Calm or Angry and that there's no room to explore or honor the other feelings we may be experiencing. And honestly IT SUCKS when you can't completely be present in your high frequency. Why is that?
I think its because we have become conditioned that any "bad or negative" emotions are "un-cool" or unacceptable - which means that either it's a trauma response or it's a space where you can't be your authentic self...fully expressing yourself.
We tend to get in our heads and start to self-sabatoge, thinking that it's wrong if we're not feeling happy when something great happens. I will always use myself as an example . . .
Something really great happened to (for) me today, but after expressing my gratitude, in many forms, I shrank. Why? (Now that's for me to unpack lol)
So what am I saying , , , let's take some advice from writer, Najwa Zebian:
- welcome it
- sit with it
- have tea with it
- understand it
- let it leave
Now Najwa is referencing pain, but her suggestions can apply to any opposite emotion we may be feeling, rather than the MAIN one we should be feeling.
Most importantly, these deep dives into ourselves . . . is required for our sustainability.
So take the time you need, you're processing and that's ok.
Your emotions are not WHO you are, they are only WHAT you are experiencing . . . at the moment. Take a breath and know that "You got this!"
~ deeply out â¤